My Love/Hate Relationship With Myself

PROs
“If I lose my excess weight…” 

• I will like whom I see in the mirror.
• I will enjoy buying clothing.
• I will have more energy.
• I will want to go more places and try more things that are new.
• I will look forward to bumping into old friends.
• My diseases might improve.
• People will not judge me so harshly.
• I will be able to fit into my very nice clothing again.
• I will enjoy my life so much more.
• It will build my confidence to push towards other goals. 

CONs
 “I hate being fat because…”

• It makes me horribly insecure.
• It robs me of vitality.
• I fear I will die young from it.
• It makes me self-conscious in intimacy.
• I can barely squeeze down the aisle in the airplane or get the airplane seatbelt on.
• I worry about which chair I sit on, as I do not want to break it.
• Others do not understand how difficult my struggle and they all have the easy answers that will not work for either our family or me.
• I feel ugly.
• I feel out of control.